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Hello all,
fortunately for me I have just discovered this forum. Almost like a god send if im honest.

Here's the deal, I have Fordyce spots, usual locations as im sure you can imagine. I've had them since I was 14, maybe 15 and have hit me hard.
I'm 26 now, and I have had no sexual encounters. I've got close a few times, but these things arent exactly unnoticable.
Everytime I explain about these things its enough to scare them away.
Where as most 'home remedies' dont seem to work, I'm really here to ask how do you explain it, and overcome it? Or am I just picking the wrong women?

Thanks for any answers people.
(08-05-2016 07:58 AM)CursedwithFS Wrote: [ -> ]Hello all,
fortunately for me I have just discovered this forum. Almost like a god send if im honest.

Here's the deal, I have Fordyce spots, usual locations as im sure you can imagine. I've had them since I was 14, maybe 15 and have hit me hard.
I'm 26 now, and I have had no sexual encounters. I've got close a few times, but these things arent exactly unnoticable.
Everytime I explain about these things its enough to scare them away.
Where as most 'home remedies' dont seem to work, I'm really here to ask how do you explain it, and overcome it? Or am I just picking the wrong women?

Thanks for any answers people.

how bad are your spots?

you don't need to explain to them...

you can explain if the girls ask to you what is. Then you explain.
(08-05-2016 07:58 AM)CursedwithFS Wrote: [ -> ]Hello all,
fortunately for me I have just discovered this forum. Almost like a god send if im honest.

Here's the deal, I have Fordyce spots, usual locations as im sure you can imagine. I've had them since I was 14, maybe 15 and have hit me hard.
I'm 26 now, and I have had no sexual encounters. I've got close a few times, but these things arent exactly unnoticable.
Everytime I explain about these things its enough to scare them away.
Where as most 'home remedies' dont seem to work, I'm really here to ask how do you explain it, and overcome it? Or am I just picking the wrong women?

Thanks for any answers people.

What do you say to them? Do you show them?
I'd just say it's the way my skin is and they are visible because penis skin is thinner than rest of body. Tell them even porn stars can have them (like Will Powers). You could even google 'Will Powers Porn pics'. If all else fails, f**k 'EM (not literally, DO NOT rape them) and find someone better. I think you have to try and get into the mentality that if she cares then you don't care about her/him.
Dude, dont mention it.

I've slept with more than 15 girls/women. None have ever mentioned this. Absolutely enthousiastic to have sex/oral sex in broad daylight. Absolutely no problem.

You make this a point of insecurity. Women dont like insecurity. They dont care about these spots.

I find it really sad to hear that this has such a huge influence on your (sexual) life. Maybe a weird comment but if this is such a mental block for you go visit the hookers. Pick a nice and friendly one and enjoy yourself and build some confidence.
Why would you tell them about it unless it puts their health at risk (which it doesn't?)

If they notice (which again is VERY unlikely) then just tell them that you went to the Dr they aren't contagious etc and are nothing to worry about.

People with HIV, Herpes, HPV and other STDs are still getting laid, there's no reason a few harmless spots should stop you!
Mine are VERY severe (like, huge, bulbous, hundreds of them from shaft to tip. Many are so close together they have merged into so-called "plasts". They get inflamed, the ooze gunk when squeezed, they often turn red and livid for days at a time, and generally make my penile skin feel very tacky and sticky.

I've never had any luck with women either. I'm in my mid thirties now, and I've just come to accept that, for some people, it's not meant to be.
(05-12-2018 06:10 PM)EdgeofDespair Wrote: [ -> ]Mine are VERY severe (like, huge, bulbous, hundreds of them from shaft to tip. Many are so close together they have merged into so-called "plasts". They get inflamed, the ooze gunk when squeezed, they often turn red and livid for days at a time, and generally make my penile skin feel very tacky and sticky.

I've never had any luck with women either. I'm in my mid thirties now, and I've just come to accept that, for some people, it's not meant to be.

Such a negative attitude will never get you anywhere.

There are people with contagious skin conditions like herpes and warts who are out sleeping with different women all the time, they are even people with HIV and Aids who manage to pull!

Squeezing your fordyce isn't helping, and it's probably what's causing them to get infected.

Speak to a Dr to make sure they aren't infected and then leave them alone for a bit and then maybe see a therapist to help you get over this mental block.

There is someone out there for everybody, and you don't deserve to feel like this due to a natural skin "problem" that is so common.
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